The most important relationship is with yourself. Reminding yourself that you are enough starts with spending quality time with you whether on trips or otherwise. It’s time to ditch the notion that companionship or performance equates with joy.
In navigating daily routines, modern life leaves little room for stillness. And yet, in those pockets of solitude lie the richest moments of self-rediscovery. Solo dates aren’t just about filling time; they’re a ritual where healing, reflection, and joy bloom organically.
So whether you’re in Abuja or Toronto, these five solo date ideas are here to help you reset, re-center, and reconnect with yourself.
Try These 5 Ideas To Reclaim Your Joy
1. Brunch and Bookstore Escape

There’s nothing quite like sipping a chilled Chapman (or mimosa) while flipping through a page-turner. Start your morning at your favorite brunch spot—think minimalist aesthetics and light afrobeats—and then head to a local bookstore or book café. For Lagos folks, Rovingheights and Terra Kulture are excellent picks. For our diaspora queens, cozy up at an indie bookstore or library nook in your city. Bonus points for journaling while you’re there.
2. Museum or Gallery Walks

Engage your inner aesthete with a gallery or museum date. Whether it’s Nike Art Gallery in Lagos or a contemporary space in London or D.C., immersing yourself in art can be deeply therapeutic. Don’t rush. Let each piece whisper to you. Maybe even buy a small print for your space, it becomes a souvenir from a date with your evolving self.
3. Nature Walk + Picnic Playlist

Find a garden, beachside, or quiet trail. For Lagosians, the Lekki Conservation Centre or Freedom Park on a quiet weekday can be magical. Pack a light lunch, a mat, and your earphones. Curate a playlist of songs that remind you of your strength, softness, and joy. Sometimes, peace isn’t found in a plane ticket, it’s in the breeze brushing your cheeks.
4. Stay-In Spa Night with a Twist

Transform your home into a sanctuary. Light a candle, soak your feet, do a clay mask, and sip on zobo or wine. But here’s the twist: before bed, record a voice note to your future self. Talk about what you’re grateful for, what you’re dreaming of, and what you’re learning. This isn’t just pampering, it’s alignment.
5. Solo Movie Night

Yes, you can go to the movies alone and love it. Pick a matinee or weekday showing, dress up (just for you), and go all out with popcorn and ice cream. Too cozy to go out? Set up your own screening at home and journal your thoughts after. Sometimes, a good movie unlocks emotions you didn’t know you were ready to feel.
Going on a solo date isn’t selfish, it’s sacred. It reminds you that joy isn’t a destination or a performance, it’s a practice. And in this fast-paced, always-online world, learning how to romance yourself is one of the most radical acts of self-love you can commit to.
So go ahead—plan that date. Dress up for you. Laugh out loud in public. Cry at the museum. Order dessert first. Be fully present with the one person who will always be with you: you.